As I listen to you speak, I will be listening on a deeper level than just the words I hear; I will be listening for the meaning behind the story, for the underlying process, for the theme that will deepen the learning. I will be listening for your vision, values and purpose. And I will be listening for resistance, fear, backtracking, and the voice of the inner critic, or saboteur, who objects to change. I will be listening for any nuance of hesitation, where you might be out of balance or where you might be out of alignment with your values.
One of the fundamental tenets of Narrative Life Coaching is that you, the client are capable and resourceful and you have the answers. You are the writer of your own script. It is my job as your coach to coax the answers by asking powerful questions. Curiosity frames the question-asking process. And the questions are designed for you to think about the answers in a different way in order to help you change your perspective. Through brain science, we now understand neuro-plasticity and a change in perspective can alter our habits.
The narrative life coaching conversation has a powerful purpose: to forward the action and to deepen the learning. Accountability makes the process of change more tangible, focused and disciplined. You will come to the coaching session with a specific agenda and a clear idea of what you want to take away from a session. You will either come up with your own action steps at the end of the session or you and I can "brainstorm" with your permission to come up with appropriate action steps. It's simple brain science with you as the writer of your own process.
I graduated with honors with a BFA Degree in painting and printmaking from Texas A&M in 1985 and then returned to school for post graduate work in Interior Design at the University of Houston and won the 1st place national scholarship award at the Second Symposium for Health Care Interior Design in 1990. I enrolled in a six-month coach training course in 2002 and became certified but only used my coaching skills through client relations as an interior designer where listening to the client's needs was essential to assure a finished product that met the client's needs and budget. I have since left that field along with a 40-year fine art practice to give more time and energy to my writing. I jumped through many hoops over the last twenty years to become a good writer and it is the one thing I do that keeps me engaged for hours at a time. Narrative Life Coaching is that way for me, too. Through writing I developed a passion for the healing properties of narrative and how the act of writing, specifically memoir, has had an effect on shifting my neuro-pathways to create positive changes in my brain chemistry.
I am divorced with a daughter who just turned 38. I have a cat who is ornery with everyone but me. I live in Talent, Oregon with my partner of eight years, who I met nine years ago at my first Argentine tango lesson.
I know what it takes to change our faulty narratives - the stories we tell ourselves and others, sometimes even without our knowing, We've become accustomed to hearing that voice in our head sending us self-negating messages: "I can't," "I'll never," etc. The good news is that we have scientific proof through the advances in brain science that we absolutely "can" and "will" if we choose.
I'd like to use Joseph Cambell's The Hero's Journey as a narrative reference in that you are the hero in your journey. Your quest is to survive and find your happily-ever-after in whatever form that takes for you. Every journey needs a good villain. What or who is your villain? Your villain represents the obstacles you need to overcome to reach your goal. The hero needs a guide to help overcome the obstacles. I would like to be that guide for you.
In studying how the brain works, and understanding the qualities of mind, I am able to ask clients the powerful questions so that clients see for themselves the positive effects of being the observer of their own thoughts and the changer of their perspectives.
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My first session with Carol made a great impression on me. I brought an issue to the table and she was able to help me see at least three different ways of looking at the situation. Right away I began to see options open up for me and was able to takeaway specific actions to make an immediate impact on my struggle. In consecutive sessions Carol has taken the time to understand what larger life changes I am striving for and what matters to me. She has been able to make every session count towards achieving my goals. I strongly recommend Carol. She has helped me change my life. Thank you, Carol for you constant support!!
DF, North Carolina
I knew nothing about coaching when I started working with Carol and now that I've experienced it with her knowledge and kindness, I am a proponent. My calls with Carol helped me to draw some of my own conclusions about patterns in muy life and make some important decisions. She helped me to create a firm but loving space in which to decide where to enforce boundaries, where to take more risks, and when to just be patient. Carol has a great diversity of life experiences and a deep well of compassion but the best part of her coaching was that she let me be the one who figured out my own path. As she held me accountable with little 'homeworks' and our weekly calls, I was able to commit to my decisions, adjust them and make what felt like massive progress in just a few months. If you are contemplating changing your life, redirecting your energy, or just trying to fine tune your decision-making process, you should really get in touch with Carol. You will enjoy it all!
KJH, Toulouse, France / Ashland, OR
I feel as though I've learned my top level listening skills from Argentine Tango dancing, which is improvised movement based on a few principle figures. As a writer, I listen to and observe my thoughts. As a follow in the dance, I listen to my leader's lead in order to have a good connection and make the dance enjoyable. When the lead and follow are in sync and are listening to the nuances in the music in the same way, there is a heightened experience that can only be measured through brain science. Narrative coaching gives me the same heightened experience when I am in sync with the improvisations of the coaching process.
The title is CULTS, LIES AND MYTHICAL DADDIES
The story is about me, a woman troubled by the persistent compulsion to hold onto her husband and how he led her on a whirlwind adventure to foreign lands and into the labyrinth of two cults before finally divorcing her and leaving her to pick herself up by the bootstraps and carry on without him or any financial support.. This book ties into what can happen when old stories, or narratives, are running the show. Our stories are often generated by our beliefs and they determine our behavior and ultimately our performance. This story represents how I changed my story and changed my life.